Carlie and I were driving in the car the other day, and it came up… The whole sexual experience from the past thing.
It’s always rather awkward, because my wife kept herself pure and I did not. Regardless of if I was a Christian or not growing up, the fact is during my teenage years I gave a piece of myself away (ever wonder the meaning of that phrase?).
I try not to think about it too much, especially since I wish I could have kept myself pure until my marriage. It pains me that Carlie was not my first, well, now you know if you didn’t. But, Carlie is so awesome, she has given me so much grace and love, and chosen to love me unconditionally regardless of my sexually promiscuous past.
I wish I could forget the sexual experiences, but I can’t. They’ll probably be with me forever. I would bet if you ask 9 out of 10 people about their first sexual experience, they will be able to tell you that they remember (as long as they were sober). Why?
12 All things are permitted for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are permitted for me, but I will not be controlled by anything. 13 Food is for the stomach, and the stomach for food, but God will abolish both of them. Now the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 And God both raised up the Lord and will raise us up by his power.
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Therefore, shall I take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! 16 Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For it says, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But the one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a person commits is outside his body, but the one who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God with your body.
– 1 Corinthians 6:12–20.
It’s My Body, I Can Do What I Want
Many people during the time of Paul’s writing to the Corinthians believed death separated the spirit from the body permanently, therefore, they could do whatever they wanted with their body. In short, they believed there would be no bodily resurrection as that which occurred with the Lord Jesus. Their idea stands in contrast to Jesus promising this physical resurrection to his followers.
Therefore, these people thought nothing could harm the spirit as long as it was in the body. Anything that happened in the body didn’t affect the Spirit. They’d say things to justify their actions like, “it’s my body, I can do what I want.” Or, “it doesn’t matter, my body will be buried one day.” Sound familiar?
Sex and Porn
The word used for sexual immorality in 6:13 is porneia, and it refers to various sexual behaviors, not only pre-marital sex and prostitution. So, don’t try to say it was just a meaningless kiss.
This is profound. Within the context, Paul is explaining why the things we do in our bodies must matter to us. All of our actions involving our bodies matter to the Lord. In the case of sexual immorality, it is more complex than simple sex before marriage. Rather, the suggestion is sexual behavior outside of the original context God had intended is something to think about.
Our Bodies, Our Spirit, Other People, and God
When we decided to give God our hearts and follow him, he gave His Spirit to live inside of us. Our bodies house a piece of the Spirit of God. The union of our spirit with God’s Spirit should restrict us from entering into other unions, similar to the way a marriage (or absence of marriage) should restrict us from entering into other sexual unions.
This sin is “against the body,” because it is joining our body and soul with that of another. This is the reason you’ll never be able to forget. This is why you will always remember your first time. When we have sexual relations with another, we give away a piece of ourselves to them, and likewise, they to us. We become bonded together with that person; it is inseparable. Sex is like gluing two pieces of people together then trying to tear them apart without leaving anything behind. It can’t be done.
So, as the Scriptures explain:
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
No human being can separate the eternal bond created through sexual intercourse. God has joined the souls of two people during sex, and no person is able to separate or reverse that union. Thus, this is the truth behind your sexual experience and why you will always remember your first time.